Gone are the days where our cultural fabric is filled with positive relationship role models and mentors. Instead, we see many bad marriages coupled with high divorce rates. Further, most people enter marriage with little to no training on how to cultivate a satisfying relationship. Hence, the need for a relationship coach.
What is a relationship coach?
A relationship coach is someone trained in specific tools and theories on how to build successful marriages. They work with couples to help them resolve resentments and build intimacy on all levels, including emotional, sexual, and financial.
4 benefits to working with a relationship coach
1-To Get Unstuck
It's easy to get stuck in marriage. Most couples develop vicious cycles because of competing needs. For example, partner A struggles providing emotional intimacy because there's not enough sexual contact. In contrast, partner B struggles providing sexual contact because there's not enough emotional intimacy. Vicious cycle. Who gives in first? These types of patterns and many others turn into frustrating cycles and couples often need help to move forward, which a relationship coach can provide.
2-To Get Support
It's easy to become isolated, especially with the challenges you face in your romantic relationship. Most couples don't have others to turn to for constructive advice. Also, people usually don't want to vent about their marriage to friends or family for fear of it turning them against their partner. Therefore, many couples are isolated with their problems with no one to speak to. A relationship coach can break the isolation by giving you a safe and confidential place to process through all of your challenges and questions about your relationship.
3-To Get Trained
Most people go through hundreds and thousands of hours of training on how to be successful in their career, including college classes, certifications, and continuing education. In contrast, most people receive little to no training on how to become successful in their marriage. No wonder romantic relationships can be so difficult, we haven't been properly trained! All couples need tools to be successful in their marriage and a relationship coach can provide them, such as tools on how to effectively resolve conflict, cultivate emotional intimacy, and share power on decision making.
4-To Get Hope
When couples move into winter season in their relationship it's easy to lose hope. Winter is when needs aren't being met and there's a lot of unresolved conflict and resentment. During these difficult times is when couples need help and support to see that progress is possible. Often, reading books or listening to podcasts isn't enough to move couples from winter to spring. However, a relationship coach can make all the difference by helping couples work through resentments and start meeting one another's needs again.
What training do the relationship coaches receive?
All of our relationship coaches have differences in their education and helping experience. However, what they all have in common is they have been through Dr. Wyatt's rigorous relationship coach certification program, which specializes in helping couples heal resentments and fall back in love. They are also in weekly supervision with Dr. Wyatt for ongoing support and care.
Dr. Wyatt is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's and doctorate in clinical psychology. He's also a certified coach. Dr. Wyatt specializes in marriage counseling in Boulder, CO, is the founder of the Total Marriage Refresh marriage retreat, author of the Total Marriage Refresh marriage book, creator of the Keep the Glow couples app, and host of the Dr. Wyatt Show marriage podcast.
What happens in relationship coaching?
Phase One- All appointments are virtual for convenience and 45 minutes long. For the first session, the coach will meet with each partner individually for 15 minutes to hear their backstory. Then, the remaining 15 minutes will be spent consolidating the couple's top areas of resentments. Subsequent sessions will be spent working through each resentment because nothing goes well in a relationship when there are active resentments.
Phase Two- Once all resentments have been addressed, couples will be trained on the top tools required to build a well rounded relationship. For example, the tools will teach couples how to have effective conflict resolution, emotional intimacy, teamwork, and sexual intimacy.
Phase Three- The last phase of coaching will train couples on how to fall back in love and stay in love. This is where all the lessons learned from phase one and two are integrated and maintained into the future.
*Most couples need around 6 months of weekly coaching sessions to successfully work through all 3 phases.
How do I start relationship coaching?
1-Purchase your first coaching session here.
2-We will receive notification of your first session purchase for relationship coaching.
3-One of our coaches will email you within 24 hours to schedule the first session.
Who are the relationship coaches?
My name is Haven Poush and I have been a Relationship Coach with Dr. Wyatt Fisher since 2021. I also lead his Total Marriage Refresh conference in Phoenix, AZ. I have a Bachelor's degree in Psychology and spent five years working in the Social Work field, helping families build and maintain healthy family attachments. My favorite part of that job was working with the parents, because it was so rewarding to see how when the marriage was strong, the whole family benefitted. As a Relationship Coach, I love helping couples learn how to have productive conflict resolution, watching them heal from resentments and fall back in love.
I'm Tricia Bowman and I'm a Certified Strategic Intervention & Relationship Coach with a BS in Human Service/Mental Health from CSUF. I also lead the Total Marriage Refresh conference in San Diego, CA. I've been working with couples and individuals for over 20 years to improve in all areas of their life. The best parts about working with couples is helping to create a stronger bond, heal, and overcome difficult conflicts, as well as impacting each other to grow in a beautiful way.
My name is Katya Jadwick and I'm a certified life coach. I also lead the Total Marriage Refresh conference in New York City. I have a BA in writing and performing arts from New York University. I love working with couples to co-create healthy, fulfilling and lasting relationships. I'm passionate about helping couples empower themselves. My husband and I just celebrated 25 years together and we share two children, a dog, a rabbit, a snake, and a commitment to lifelong learning!
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