10 At Home Date Night Ideas - Simple & Affordable

10 At Home Date Night Ideas - Simple & Affordable

Let’s focus on the significance of at home date night ideas. Dating is the catalyst for bringing partners together and fostering love between them, but sadly, many couples neglect dating post-marriage. This is unfortunate because the actions that sparked love initially are essential for keeping it alive in marriage. Many of us stop dating due to busyness, distractions, or overwhelming responsibilities like childcare, careers, mortgages, and retirement plans. Consequently, familiarity fades, joy dissipates, and relationships morph into mundane partnerships that feel like siblings or business associates. Fortunately, organizing date nights doesn’t need to be complex or costly. Today, I'll discuss affordable and manageable at-home date night ideas that you can implement right away.

10 At Home Date Night Ideas

First, it’s important to incorporate four key elements into each date: emotional intimacy, affection, recreation, and sensual activity. Sensual activity doesn't imply sexual activity but it might turn sexual. Failure to include all four elements may result in one partner perceiving the date positively while the other finds it lacking. By encompassing all four components, you maximize the chances of both partners enjoying the date. 

Why at home dates?

One of the advantages of staying in for date nights is that you don't need to arrange for a babysitter. Keeping things simple and affordable is key to ensuring regularity in your dates. I recommend scheduling one date per week, ideally lasting around three to four hours. Another benefit of at home date nights is the flexibility to plan them around your children's sleep schedules. For instance, if you have young kids, you can put them to bed early one night a week to have a date with your partner. Alternatively, if your children are older, they can occupy themselves with a movie or other activity while you enjoy your date together. 

Option 1: Games

The first suggestion is games. Games can be a fantastic activity to enjoy with your partner because of the range of options available, such as board games or card games. Choose what appeals to both you and your partner. Personally, my wife and I enjoy card games like Gin Rummy, Progressive Rummy, Canasta, or Tripoli. Additionally, having a ping pong table or a dartboard at home can provide further entertainment for your date nights.

Option 2: Cook together

Another suggestion is to cook together. You might consider watching an online cooking course or searching for a recipe to prepare something enjoyable with your partner. Sharing the experience of preparing and enjoying a meal together can be such a bonding experience. Eating together has always been a way to connect with others, so making food together can enhance that connection. Personally, my wife and I both share a passion for food, so cooking together has been a delightful activity for us. We divide cooking responsibilities throughout the week, with each of us taking turns preparing meals. However, cooking together adds an extra layer of bonding as you collaborate in the kitchen. Whether it's dividing tasks to prepare a complete meal or working together on a dessert or main course, the shared experience of cooking can strengthen your connection.

Option 3: Virtual tours

Another idea is to embark on a virtual tour. Virtual tours offer the opportunity to explore various destinations from the comfort of your home. My wife and I tried this a few years ago when we virtually toured Rome. It's an incredible experience to select any city worldwide and virtually navigate through its streets and landmarks. This simulation allows you to immerse yourself in the destination as if you were physically there. If you and your partner enjoy traveling or wish to explore new places, virtual tours are an excellent way to do so without leaving home. Simply search for virtual city tours online, and you'll have a plethora of options to choose from, enabling you to explore destinations and plan future travels together.

Option 4: Dancing

The fourth suggestion is to try an online dance lesson. If you and your partner enjoy dancing, why not learn some new moves together from the comfort of your home? There are tons of virtual dance lessons available online covering various styles such as salsa, square dancing, or the waltz. Simply watch some instructional videos on platforms like YouTube, then practice the steps with your partner. It's a cost-effective and enjoyable way to spend your at home date night. Choose a dance style that appeals to both of you, ensuring maximum fun. One dance style my wife and I have enjoyed over the years is contra dancing, which harks back to medieval times with banjos and guitars. It's a lively line dance performed with other couples and can be learned at home with practice. 

Option 5: Movie night

Next up is a classic movie night. While passive activities like watching movies are acceptable for occasional date nights, they shouldn't become the norm. It's easy to fall into the trap of opting for a movie night due to fatigue, but it's essential to keep them as a minority because they lack interaction. When selecting a movie, make sure it's something both of you will enjoy, either by mutual agreement or by taking turns choosing. 

Option 6: Build a fire

The sixth idea is to roast marshmallows outdoors on a fire. If you don't already have a fire pit at home, consider getting one. They provide a wonderful setting for a cozy date night with your partner. Head outdoors, gather some wood and kindling, and start a fire. Roasting marshmallows over the flames while engaging in quality conversation creates a romantic, soothing, and bonding atmosphere. Personally, I've always enjoyed outdoor fire pits, and I recently built one myself last summer and we love it! 

Option 7: Stargazing

Seventh on the list is stargazing. While this activity may not be a regular occurrence, it can be incredibly romantic, particularly during the spring months like April or May, or in the fall once the mosquitoes have subsided. Simply grab a blanket, some snacks, and head outside to appreciate the beauty of the night sky. Whether counting stars or identifying constellations, stargazing offers a unique and intimate experience for couples.

Option 8: Hide and seek

Consider playing hide and seek outdoors at night with your partner. When was the last time you engaged in this childhood game together? It's likely been overlooked since playing with your kids when they were younger. However, playing hide and seek with your partner can inject fun and excitement into your relationship, offering a unique and playful way to spend your at home date night. Especially if you get to make out each time you find your partner's hiding spot!

Option 9: Sensual massage

The ninth suggestion is indulging in a sensual massage. I emphasize the importance of sensual activities because they serve as a bridge between affection and sexual intimacy. Engaging in sensual activity creates a romantic atmosphere by fostering physical, emotional, and relational bonding between partners. During a sensual massage, dim the lights, play soft music, and prepare some light snacks. Then, using coconut oil or another suitable massage oil, take turns being the giver and receiver of the massage. If you're the giver, experiment with different types of touch, ranging from firm pressure to gentle caresses or even playful tickles. If you're the receiver, provide positive redirect so your partner learns how best to touch your body and where. 

Option 10: Sensual bath

When was the last time you enjoyed a bath with your partner? Since this activity is centered on sensuality rather than sexuality, consider wearing bathing suits as a visual reminder of its intimate yet non-sexual nature. Similar to the massage, it may or may not turn sexual when it's over. Take turns gently washing each other's bodies with care and attention. Start by lathering soap on your partner's arms, forearms, and hands. Then, move on to their back, legs, thighs, calves, and feet, catering to their preferences throughout the process.

In conclusion, here are the ten at home date night ideas to start this week!

1. Games
2. Cooking together
3. Virtual tour
4. Online dance lesson
5. Movie night
6. Build a fire
7. Stargazing
8. Playing hide and seek
9. Sensual massage
10. Shared bath

Dr. Wyatt Fisher

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