Relationship Coaching for Couples | Start Here!
Feeling stuck in your relationship?
At an impasse?
Have unresolved resentments?
You're not alone.
Many couples fall into winter and aren't sure how to get into spring.
That's why relationship coaching for couples is so popular.
It will help you resolve your resentments and rekindle your love!
What is relationship coaching for couples?
A relationship coach for couples is someone trained in specific tools and skills to build successful relationships. They work with couples to help them resolve their resentments and rekindle their love.
What's the problem for couples?
Relationships are hard work. While falling in love is easy, staying in love is not. Unresolved conflicts, unmet needs, opposing expectations, and miscommunication are just some of the issues facing couples. Add to those issues the struggle with emotional intimacy, physical intimacy, finances, parenting, and in-laws and you have many mounting problems.
What's the solution for couples?
Couples coaching is the solution. Working with a couples coach provides support, direction, and accountability to move your relationship from surviving to thriving and from roommates to lovers.
What training do our relationship coaches receive?
All of the relationship coaches listed below have been through Dr. Wyatt's ICF Accredited relationship coach certification program FRCA. The ICF (International Coaching Federation) is the governing body for the coaching industry worldwide. Dr. Wyatt's program is one of the most rigorous and robust in the relationship coaching field.
Couples Coaching Directory
All sessions are virtual to maximize convenience
Stephen Bickle, Relationship Coach In Los Angeles, CA After more than 25 years together, my wife and I found ourselves in a place I never anticipated—a place of deep struggle and disconnect. Determined to understand what had gone wrong and how to rebuild, I set out on a journey that not only transformed every aspect of my life and relationship but inspired an entirely new direction in my life. Read the rest of my bio here!
What's the difference between couples coaching and couples therapy?
1-Past vs. Future
Most therapy focuses on the past. It will explore each partner's family of origin and unpack trauma, wounds, and patterns picked up in their childhood. In contrast, relationship coaching focuses more on what couples can do differently moving forward regardless of their background.
2-Feelings vs. Tools
Most therapy focuses on feelings. Sessions are spent exploring each partner's negative emotions and expressing them toward one another. In contrast, couples coaching focuses on learning tools and skills to improve the couple's relationship.
3-Low Functioning vs. Moderate Functioning
Most therapy focuses on low functioning individuals with significant mental health problems or addictions and how those are impairing their marriage. In contrast, relationship coaching focuses on moderate to high functioning individuals who do not have mental health problems or addictions and want to move their marriage from surviving to thriving.
4 Benefits To Working With A Relationship Coach
1-To Get Unstuck
It's easy to get stuck in marriage. Most couples develop vicious cycles because of competing needs. For example, partner A struggles providing emotional intimacy because there's not enough sexual contact. In contrast, partner B struggles providing sexual contact because there's not enough emotional intimacy. Vicious cycle. Who gives in first? These types of patterns and many others turn into frustrating cycles and couples often need help to move forward, which a relationship coach can provide.
2-To Get Support
It's easy to become isolated, especially with the challenges couples face in their romantic relationship. Most couples don't have others to turn to for constructive advice. Also, people usually don't want to vent about their marriage to friends or family for fear of it turning them against their partner. Therefore, many couples are isolated with their problems with no one to speak to. A relationship coach can break the isolation by giving you a safe and confidential space to process through your challenges and questions.
3-To Get Trained
Most people go through hundreds of hours of training on how to be successful in their career, including college classes, certifications, and continuing education. In contrast, most people receive little to no training on how to become successful in their marriage. No wonder romantic relationships can be so difficult, we haven't been properly trained! All couples need tools to be successful in their marriage and a relationship coach can provide them, such as tools on how to effectively resolve conflict, cultivate emotional intimacy, and share power on decision making.
4-To Get Hope
When couples move into winter season in their relationship it's easy to lose hope. Winter is when needs aren't met and there's a lot of unresolved conflict and resentment. During these difficult times is when couples need help and support to experience progress. Often, reading books or listening to podcasts isn't enough to move couples from winter to spring. However, a relationship coach can make all the difference by providing individualized support unique to your relationship.
What happens in relationship coaching for couples?
Common areas addressed in couples coaching include conflict resolution, communication, parenting, finances, emotional intimacy, sexual intimacy, uneven workload, sharing power, and in laws.
Phase One- Resolve Your Resentments:
All appointments are virtual for convenience. For the first session, the relationship coach will meet with each partner individually for 15 minutes to hear their backstory. Then, the remaining 15 minutes will be spent consolidating the couple's top areas of resentments. Subsequent sessions in phase one will be spent working through each resentment because nothing goes well in a relationship until all resentments are healed.
Phase Two- Build Your Skills:
Once all resentments have been addressed, couples will be trained on the top tools required to build a successful relationship. For example, the tools will teach couples how to have effective conflict resolution, nurture emotional intimacy, and communicate effectively.
Phase Three- Stay In Love:
The last phase of coaching will train couples on how to fall back in love and stay in love well into the future through regular feedback from their partner. Couples are encouraged to keep working with their coach until they both receive +20 and above consistently on their love buckets.
*Most couples need around 6 months of weekly couples coaching to successfully work through all 3 phases. However, some couples only need 3-4 months if they are highly motivated and teachable.
If your relationship was going to get better on its own it already would have. You go the the mechanic for your car, the dentist for your teeth, and the plumber for your toilet, see a couples coach for your relationship!
